The Power of First Impressions

We've all heard the old saying, "There's never a second chance to make a first impression." It's true. Are you sure you are projecting a good first impression? What is a first impression? If you're not sure, you may want to take a few notes and check yourself.


So, why is a first impression so important? Sometimes first impressions can be very important and other times they are not important to people at all. The times when they are not very important are when you are working in your yard and a new neighbor, out for a leisurely walk, passes by and says hello. You walk over, remove your gardening gloves and greet him with a handshake. You chat for a few minutes and both return to what you were doing. This is the casual first impression. By you working in your yard, one might think that you care about your home, and by the neighbor taking a walk, one might think he cares about his health. It was impromptu and you can't really prepare yourself for chance encounters of this nature.

Then again, you will come across people who don't particularly care what others think of them. They are full of confidence in themselves and tend to think, "If they like me, great. If they don't, it's okay." No one has to like everyone they meet. By just being himself, this person's self confidence just might shine through and make a good impression. Who's to know?

However, there are other situations where you might want to really plan ahead to make a good impression. You might be meeting your fiance and her parents for dinner. This is the first time you are meeting your future in-laws, so you want to make the best first impression you can.

Some experts say the first impression takes place within the first 30 seconds of contact. Once that first impression has been made, it's hard to change it. They have either received a positive or negative first impression of you.

Consider the following suggestions to help you make the best first impression you can:

Always make a conscious effort to make eye contact. Remember, looking down as you speak portrays dishonesty. The next time you are introduced to a group of people, play a game with yourself and try to remember each person's eye color. This will help you to remember to make eye contact. Sit or stand up straight. Make sure your shoulders are not slouching. Bad posture can make you look bored or tired.


In previous lessons, we discussed the importance of the handshake. As you would expect, a good, solid handshake plays a large part in making a favorable first impression. It should be firm and solid. Try to extend your hand first to show excitement. Keep your arm straight out and your elbow locked. Grab the other hand firmly, but not too hard, and shake in short, firm bursts. Look the other person directly in the eye as you are shaking their hand as a sign of respect, and then have a seat.

Keep your arms by your side if you are standing, or place them on the table if you are sitting. You can also place them folded on your lap. Don't cross your arms in front of you, as this is a sign of blocking others out and it makes you look closed. And, remember to smile. It's a happy time when meeting new people and soon-to-be family members, so make it a time to remember.



When someone asks you a question, make sure you are looking directly at them to show that you are paying attention. Don't interrupt, but wait until they have finished their statement or question. If there is activity or noise around you, try not to look away from the speaker to see what the commotion is. This is a sign of disrespect. You want them to feel assured that they have your full attention.

The first impression you make can set the pace for the rest of your relationship. Whether you are meeting your in-laws for the first time, or going on a job interview where you have to make a good impression, you will want to make sure you are at the top of your game before you step out the front door. Take a double look at yourself in the mirror. You can practice smiling, talking, or whatever you feel like practicing. It may feel a little awkward, but if you are alone, no one will see you anyway. So, make sure you are putting your best foot forward, as it will pay off in the end.